by Tammy Cross
My elderly Father is moving in with us in a few months. The problem I am forseeing is my 3 year old Main Coon (declawed) Male who is very, very spoiled and an only cat. He has never been around other cats before, and - you see where I am going with this don't you...
My Dad has a Female, 10 or 12 year old gray and white -very, very, very spoiled (still has claws) cat. Neither cat is an outdoor cat.
I know his precious kitty will be very disturbed. They are moving from California to Wyoming and she is already missing my Mother who passed away las December.
How in the world will I get these 2 cats to live together peacefully and not kill each other doing it? I also don't want my poor cat to feel betrayed. They really are both Very spoiled.
What can I do to make this a smooth transition for cats and humans?
Please help me, I literaly am waking up at night worrying about this and we are at least 2 - 3 months from the actual move.
Answer by Kate
well the first thing is not to declaw the other cat, this will make no difference and is not fair.
Secondly make sure both cats are neutered/spayed, this will make things a lot easier for all of you and help calm any aggression.
thirdly, I know how worried you must feel, i would be anxious too, especially for the cats who will both be going through stressful periods. there is a way to help make the transition easier for the cats and it will also help to give them time to get to know each other without fear. It does take some time and effort on your part but if you stick with it for a week of so it really is worth the effort. having said that, it does not remove the prospect of the occasional spat etc, this is natural and in most cases should be allowed, it is there way of finding their place in the home and is often more about show than actual aggression.
Any way the process is described here on my web page
Don't worry, if you can remain calm and controlled throughout the introduction period this will help to assure your cats as they will also sense your worry and fear and could hinder the introduction. Remember slow, small steps and eventually they will at the very least be able to live together in peace.
best wishes Kate
P.s love the picture