My cat hates me since I came home from hospital
(Kitimat BC., Canada)
Daisy and Creeper
I am so very sad, I have 3 cats but my Daisy, a little lilac point Siamese, and I were so very close, I mean we did everything togetheer, she was always by my side she owned my bed if another cat even looked at it they got chased away, we were just the closest happiest companions and now she completely hates me.
I had to go into hospital for 2 months, when I came home she hardly acknowledged me which shocked me. everyday I've made many attemps to pat her brush her play with her, and she honestly wants nothing to do with me, she runs away from me, she won't even let me pat her, this breaks my heart like you have no idea. I love Daisy so much, and to not wake up in the middle of the night and not see her with me in bed or not have her run up to me when I wake up.. anything.
It's been over 2 months now and there's been no change at all, and I'm so scared she's never going to be the Daisy I once knew.
Please can you help me? I'm devastated, and at a complete loss at what to do.
I have one other Siamese she's quite old and keeps to herself, and I have a 4 year old Tonk. and both of them have not done anything different, they're the same. Oh I should mention Daisy is a year and a half in age.
If I could get some suggestions, ideas, anything I would so very grateful!
Please any suggestion is not too small, send me any and all. thank you.
Thank you so much,
Answer by KAte
Hi let me say this is a common problem for these circumstances. Basically it is based around fear. You went away, this would have been upsetting and possibly frightening for your cat, when yo came back it is likely that you smelt differently this is also another thing which can cause fear, you may even be acting slightly differently due to your illness etc. All of these things are causes for a cat to react with fear.
So it is not that your cat hates you, no it is more likely that she is fearful and unsure of you.
I suggest that you practice some of the bonding methods described on this page here
take it slow but i'm sure that over a little time she will relax around you.
best wishes Kate