Siamese cat behaviour problems. PLEASE HELP

by Chantal
(South Africa)




We got a Lilac Point Modern Siamese kitten (Mesha) from a breeder. The breeder stopped breeding and sold all his adults and last kittens. Mesha and her brother was the last two left and he gave her to us for free.
The problem is that he didn’t socialise his last kittens at all, he didn’t have the time, that’s why he stopped breeding. So when we got her at 4 months she was scared of us and all our other cats.
After a while she started to trust us and she tolerated all the other cats, except for one. She absolutely hates our 2, year old neutered Siamese male. He didn’t do anything to her, but every time he comes near her, even within meters of her she totally freaks out and screams like someone’s trying to kill her!
That was fine, we could deal with that, she only had issues with the one. BUT now a few days ago we got a new baby – female Siamese kitten. From the time she arrived Mesha has become allot worse. Now she hates the new baby, she hates our neutered boy, she doesn’t want any of the other cats to come near her, if we try to pet her she growls and runs away and if we try to pick her up she screams like we’re going to kill her and scratches us and runs away.
She is stressed and on the defence permanently and I feel so
sorry for her. We love her very much, so getting rid of her, or any of our cats is not an option. We need a solution, ANYTHING!We need to know what to do to make life better for Mesha, our other cats and ourselves.

Kind Regards

(We have 6 cats in total)

Answer by Kate
Hi, wow six cats thats a lot. cats are not naturally pack animals and so having a lot of cats can be very uncomfortable for some of them, especially ones who are not socialized from birth.

Although some cats can l;earn to adjust to living with other cats some simply can't and thats why often at rescue shelters they will recommend certain cats to be re homed to a home with no other animals. little Mesha may just be one of those. By the way she is so beautiful.

All i can suggest if rehoming is not a option at the moment is to give her some time alone for a few days and then to try and slowly introduce her to the new cat (please see this page for some information on this process )

Also if she is a particularly nervous cat there are some medication which can help some cats

Of course time and a lot more socialization will be the key to see if this little girl can learn to settle down into a multi cat home or not. fingers crossed.

best wishes Kate

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Siamese cats
by: Sarah

In my experience, while cats may not in general be pack animals, Siamese very much are!!

Our adult male absolutely loved the two half-Mese kittens we unexpectedly rescued a couple years back... they are still very much a little lion-pride, in contrast to our other cats. I've read of this group behaviour from other Siamese owners as well, since (we didn't start out planning to have Meses at all, it just kind of happened.)

So I'm not surprised that Mesha bonded with the kitten as soon as she got over her fear. I'm sorry to hear that she was so frightened of the male; she must have felt threatened for some reason since Siamese are such clannish creatures.

I'm glad it all worked out!

A Miracle has happend!
by: Chantal

Hi. Thanks for the advice.
It's been 2 weeks now since the new kitten arrived and Mesha's behaviour totally changed towards the baby.
She now acts like a mommy with her, follows her everywhere, sleeps with her, grooms her and is VERY protective towards her.
Looks like I went into panic mode too quickly.

She is also allowing us to pick her up again and pet her. And for some reason she is actually more relaxed towards all the other cats than before we got the new baby.
So, looks like a very bad situation actually turned into something good.
I'm so happy for her; I hated seeing her so stressed.

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